Check Out Why Women Fake Orgasm

Chances are if you're a woman and you've had sex, you've faked an orgasm. It's something that's become second nature to some of us, and a handy tool at our disposal - but hardly a satisfying one!

Women do tend to find it harder than men to reach orgasm during sex which explains why we might resort to the theatricals. G-spot aside, most ladies need direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, and not all sexual positions will involve regular contact with the clitoris. This can be remedied by changing your sex positions, spending longer time on foreplay, and if you haven't already found it, looking for the elusive G-spot.

Sex and relationships expert Dr Pam Spurr says: 'For women who don't have rock-solid confidence and high self-esteem they may feel unworthy of trying to get their partner to discover with them how to bring them to climax. They figure it'd be too much trouble for their partner and that they're not worth it. Many women in this position also worry that there's something 'wrong with' them. So with these complex and largely negative feelings, they find it easier to fake.'

The problem with faking it

It goes without saying that in fact every time we fake it we're missing out on the real thing, but we're also getting ourselves and our partners into bad habits which can be a tricky cycle to break. If your partner believes that you're reaching climax because of his sexual techniques, then he'll keep on using the same one which can then trap you into faking it again and again.

So just what is it that makes us feel the need to fake it? We asked you this question on goodtoknow...

The top five reasons for faking it:

1. So he doesn't get upset. Around 47% of you said you'd fake your orgasms so you wouldn't hurt his feelings! It can dent a man's ego to feel that he doesn't turn you on or can't satisfy you, so you choose to spare his feelings.

2. Because you want him to finish! This is the second most popular reason for our readers with 18% of you saying it's to encourage him to hurry up. Perhaps the sex has gone on too long and you're starting to get a bit tired and uncomfortable.

3. You're scared you're taking too long. With 14% of you worried you were taking too long to reach orgasm, you were prepared to sacrifice your climax and end it prematurely to save embarrassment!

4. You're bored! Only 13% of you said you faked it because you were bored and unstimulated with your partner. Generally we might fake the orgasm because quite simply the guy doesn't turn us on or doesn't have a clue what he's doing!

5. Because you're embarrassed if you don't reach climax. Around 8% of you said you felt bad if you couldn't orgasm and so faked it to avoid your own personal issues. It's important to remember that during sex you and your partner are sexually stimulated at different rates, and it may take one of you longer to orgasm.

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